It's an exhilarating experience, although fraught with moments of beginners' doubts, to emerge at 62 as someone who is actually becoming a domme, spanking, flogging and otherwise "erotically torturing" men who wish me to do so.  I've paged through Jay Wisemen's beginning primer for years and didn't act on any of the tantalizing fantasies until I found myself on a website called Alt.com. Granted, there were profiles of men and women from every description and intensity of the BDSM spectrum and most of the male profile pictures tend to be more penile than personal in nature -- long, thick, crooked, flabby, as if they were the main enticement to a 62 year old whose initial lovemaking as a sexually repressed young wife and then suburban housewife was to avoid at all costs having to do anything with those things except allow them into one and only one somewhat reserved orifice. But there were a;sp intelligent men who wanted to be submissive in this area of their lives, men who represented all ages and inclinations.  Men who craved discipline, felt an inner need to be submissive and ordered to bend over my sofa and feel my crop.  In fact, a crop of them.  I am learning the roles (no pun intended) making lots of mistakes and sorting through lots of e-mails.  It's a little like dating with you in charge of all the activities, a power and control trip.  Of course I'm a novice and my few real-life encounters so far have been far from perfect; but it is an exploration that leaves me wishing for more with few regrets so far...