This is a very interesting point. Personally, I divide (and keep mutually exclusive) into two realms my perception of my penis and the image of it I like to project onto others: sociological and sexual.

I am perceptive of the role (widespread or personally infered) of the penis and the cultivated concept of masculinity in our American society. We come out of a tradition of male-dominated arenas of politics, business, and academia, where the men, some 5,000 years after civilization’s inception, still hunt for meat while the women bear the children and collect meagerly, as it were (or this mentality exists to a large extent).

The power and dominance that have come to define manhood are manifested in the penis. If it is big, one is strong; if it is small, then one is weak. This same framework effects sensativity about penis size, sexual prowess, and sexual orientation. Effectively, the male is forced to defend his own “masculinity” while repudiating homosexuality, abstinence, and, in some cases, women. While this brief outline is incomplete, it highlights some of the points tied up in our history and current social construct surrounding the penis and male-female relations.

I have chosen, whenever possible, to avert penis-derived self-agrandizement, and to debate proactively the social worth of the penis. I feel the concept of the omnipotent cock reinforces false notions of manhood and subordinates the penisless woman to something lower than a male. Such a mindset, biological disparities notwithstanding, is deeply sexist (one of the many -ists from which we must free ourselves socially).

Sexually, I approach my penis differently. In the bedroom, I relish the opportunity to be the dominant partner (and I’ve found most of my girlfriends/lovers enjoy having me dominate, as it were). I derive my feeling of dominance not merely from being physical with my partner; the possibility to feel socially powerful as a result of a sizeable cock that I reject outside of the bedroom, I take full advantage of inside.

I am significantly larger than average and I know it. This awareness coupled with my partner’s acknowledgement imbues me with a sense of power, worth, and ability. Further, I cum a lot (albeit this is a serious account, I am invariably told by lovers, “like a porn star”), and I LOVE to exploit this ability in certain acts e.g. “facials” (an act, I feel, is grossly underrepresented in bedrooms, and I’m curious to hear how others appraoch it), when I’m receiving oral sex my partner sometimes has difficulty swallowing me and I get turned on by it, etc.

Now, these acts and charecteristics are of themselves sexy, though I cannot doubt that they also fill me with a sense of power and dominance.

Of course, it could be argued that while I try to seperate the sociologicsl from the sexual, these two are intertwined at some point. Might a women, who is submissive in bed become socially submissive? Possibly. Would this be negative. Possibly. But, I approach the two arenas as I see fit, with the intention of being socially gender-egalitarian, while maintaining a sexually dominant and partly penis-powerful sex life.

(As for circumcision, I am circumsized and I’ve seen penises that are not. I feel there is an aesthetic, geometric quality in the circumsized penis. Whereas the uncircumsized cock seems to continue indefinitely, sloppily, and weakly, the circumsized one appears rigid, bold, and with purpose.)