Sex In The Public Square - no sex leads to less sex? - Comments

Or, the dry spell breaks a routine

Elizabeth — Thu, 02 Aug 2007 08:24:12 -0700

My partner and I also go through somewhat routine "dry spells" when we're just too busy, or not home at the same time, or our minds are on other things. Sometimes we experience the same "awkardness" about getting back together that you described, RC. Once in a while, though, something different and interesting happens: the dry spell seems to break our sexual routine and we have "new sex" again. I wish I could figure out exactly what the conditions are that lead to the 'new sex' resolution of the dry spell instead of the 'awkard reconnecting' resolution of the dry spell!

finally...

Elizabeth — Thu, 02 Aug 2007 08:07:26 -0700

I finally got my first blog entry about this study up. I hope to have a "part 2" soon.

I forgot how to do it.

RC — Wed, 01 Aug 2007 09:05:55 -0700

This reminds me of conversations I've had with my partner during or after periods in our life when, due to stress, work, or whatever, our sex life gets pushed back. After a week or two of not being sexual or even sensual with each other, a kind of shyness sets in, a nervousness or trepidation that makes it harder to get back together. It sounds ridiculous that people together as long as we have been, doing some of the outlandish things we've done, could become shy. But there it is. Intimacy isn't like riding a bike...you don't just get back on and ride. At least, I don't.

i'll just keep fucking my carnivore and stay relaxed

tracya — Tue, 31 Jul 2007 13:45:04 -0700

good article elizabeth...i can think of lots of reasons why i have sex....want to connect, need to release, desire to please....237 and counting seems a bit much...

janie...i saw this also..not to offend but do vegans realize they are in themselves a piece of meat??? fair enough, i choose not to have sex with people who use drugs or want to procreate but if i ruled out every partner based on his eating habits i might be less than thrilled with what is left....

And One Reason Not To

JanieBelle — Tue, 31 Jul 2007 11:04:10 -0700

I just came across this via digg ---

Carnivore sex off the menu
No sex, please, you're a carnivore.
A new phenomenon in New Zealand is taking the idea of you are what you eat to the extreme.
Vegansexuals are people who do not eat any meat or animal products, and who choose not to be sexually intimate with non-vegan partners whose bodies, they say, are made up of dead animals.

You can read the rest of the story at the New Zealand Press .

"You and me baby,

Ain't nuthin' but mammals,

So let's do it like they do

On the Discovery Channel"

...or not.

Another interesting study about sex

Elizabeth — Tue, 31 Jul 2007 10:56:00 -0700

I hope to blog about this later, but it seems appropriate to mention it here too ... The New York Times just published an article in their Tuesday Science section about a study of people's reasons for having sex. They came up with 237 reasons and grouped them into four broad categories (physical reasons, goal attainment reasons, emotional reasons, and insecurity reasons). It seems to me that there's a lot of overlap here, but in any case, the reason I mention it at all is that "stress reduction" was a main subfactor of "physical reasons."

Here's a link to the study (PDF)

And a link to the NYT story

no sex leads to less sex?

tracya — Tue, 31 Jul 2007 10:26:44 -0700

No Sex Leads To Less Sex, Research Shows

Feeling stressed? Taking on lots of new commitments? If you answered yes to those two questions, you may need to take a close look at your love life, according to a team of German researchers.