NCSF Media Update, December 10, 2007

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1. Texas town clamps down on home sex club
2. Positive changes
3. AdultFriendFinder settles pop-up adware charges
4. 'Exposing' the Folsom Street Fair

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Texas town clamps down on home sex club
by Paul J. Weber
Chicago Sun-Times
December 9, 2007

DUNCANVILLE, Texas -- The most popular address on Cedar Ridge Drive is Jim Trulock's split-level home, which has a group sex room and attracts as many as 100 people to swinger parties.

But the festivities could soon be over. In response to neighbors' complaints, the city has outlawed sex clubs in residential areas. Citations have been issued, and search warrants may be next.

''It's crazy that they want to force their morality down our throats,'' said Dawn Burton, 45, a regular guest at the parties. ''We're all frustrated.''

So are those who complain of the noise, traffic and parking problems in their upscale neighborhood every Friday and Saturday, when Trulock's home is transformed into the "Cherry Pit.''

Duncanville is an unlikely venue for a neighborhood swinger club. The city of 36,000 just southwest of Dallas has about 50 places of worship but no registered sexually oriented businesses.

Duncanville officials insist they are not just another prudish Texas town giving the boot to spouse-swappers. They say it all boils down to a matter of law: Trulock is operating a business featuring live sex acts.

''It's not trying to judge anyone or pass judgment on someone's lifestyle,'' spokeswoman Tonya Lewis said.

To support its claim, the city notes the Cherry Pit accepts money from guests and promotes the parties on its Web site.

Attorneys for Trulock, 59, say the Cherry Pit is nothing more than a private residence where a group of friends get together on weekends to socialize in whatever way they prefer.


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Positive changes
by Mister Marcus
Bay Area Reporter (San Francisco)
December 6, 2007

Depending on your personal preferences about our leather/bdsm lifestyles and institutions, be advised that in a press release from Leather Heritage LLC, the owners of the International Leather Sir/boy and Community Boot Black titles, (Mark Frazier, executive producer; Lou Molnar, co-producer; and Randal Kinnear, co-producer) state that they are currently negotiating to move the contest to San Francisco on Columbus Day weekend in 2008.

Let's hope they are successful in these negotiations; further, affordable event packages will start at $79 for early registration, $99 for regular registration and $129 at the door. The weekend package deals include contest events on Friday and Saturday nights, 20 or more educational workshops, and a Sunday brunch with a keynote speaker.

The press release also stated that Frazier, Molnar, and Kinnear feel that "one of the most difficult obstacles we faced as new owners was the resolution of allowing only 'bio born males' to compete for the titles of 'Sir or boy.' We are extremely proud to announce that with the vast majority of support from our regional sponsors/producers, that the issue has been resolved."

"Effective immediately, any individual who is 'legally male' and 'self-identifies as gay male' can enter any local, regional feeder contest for ILS/b titles, as has been the case for the International Community Boot Black title. We are very proud of these improvements and all the positive moves ILS/b and ICBB are making for a 'progressive future' for our communities."


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AdultFriendFinder settles pop-up adware charges
by Robert McMillan
IDG News Service
via InfoWorld
December 6, 2007

A site billing itself as the world's largest sex and swingers community has settled charges with the U.S. Federal Trade Commission that it bombarded consumers with sexually explicit pop-up ads.

The owners of were accused of pushing the ads through spyware that was often installed without consumers' knowledge, the FTC said in a complaint set to be filed Thursday in federal court. Victims who had never even visited sexually explicit sites would suddenly find themselves face to face with full-screen pornographic ads after typing innocuous sounding terms such as "flowers," "travel," and "vacations" into search engines.

The site's operator, Various Inc. of Palo Alto, California, has agreed to clean up its marketing practices and require consumers to give their consent before ads are displayed, and to set up a Web site where consumers can submit complaints. "The settlement bars the defendant from displaying sexually explicit online ads to consumers who are not seeking out sexually explicit content," the FTC said Thursday in a statement .

No fines were imposed as part of the settlement, Various' first with the FTC, and the company has admitted no wrongdoing. Federal law prohibits the FTC from imposing fines on first-time violators.

Various' other Web sites, such as,, and, are also covered by the terms of the settlement.


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'Exposing' the Folsom Street Fair
by Rebecca Armendariz
Houston Voice
December 5, 2007

I just got back from attending the Americans for Truth About Homosexuality, Concerned Women for America and PFOX news conference at the National Press Club. The point of this gathering was to expose the happenings of the Folsom Street Fair, an annual street festival in San Francisco that's touted as "the grandaddy of all leather events."

I'd have to call Peter LaBarbera and Matt Barber two of my biggest ... nemeses. Well, they bring out the bitch in me. Their opinions and arguments are so ludicrous that it's easy for many gays to simply ignore their hate-filled speech because it's so over the top. But when I walked into the room and saw them face-to-face, there were warm handshakes and greetings. That creeped me out because the introductions were such a facade. As soon as I said "Washington Blade," they knew who I was. They handed me the "press materials" and a DVD and I accepted it with a thank you. Too weird.

Attendance clocked in at less than 10 people -- I only noticed one other journalist, a young woman from Scripps Howard. The rest appeared to know either Peter or Matt.

The organizers of Folsom Street are obviously not trying to hide the nature of the festival. It's not like you arrive, pay your entry fee and are shocked to realize that there's a strapping leather daddy leading around his manservant on a leash. That's to be expected. The official program itself makes it explicitly clear that this festival "brings together a cross section of the leather / fetish / BDSM communities."

LaBarbera went to the fair with his video camera and caught the happenings with every intention of "exposing" them. His main beef is that this area falls within Speaker Nancy Pelosi's district. So they wrote Pelosi a letter telling her that there should be a "limit to tolerance." The trio of anti-gay organizations plans to "alert the nation of this egregious behavior."

"The cover-up is over," LaBarbera said.

Barber has the biggest issue with the fact that children were caught on video at the fair. LaBarbera later said he saw 5-6 kids there throughout the day. Again, the parents of these children had to bring them there and pay their way in, and it's completely up to them to decide whether that's appropriate or not.

The most awkward moments occurred during Grace Halley from PFOX's portion of the speech. She told her story about how she used to be a transgendered FTM until God chose her to fulfill his mission of proving to people that gays can change and aren't born that way.

Then, LaBarbera asked a question that made me cringe in disbelief. "As an African American, how does it make you feel to see an African American person being led as a pony by her master?"


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