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Feeling stressed? Taking on lots of new commitments? If you answered yes to those two questions, you may need to take a close look at your love life, according to a team of German researchers.
Appearing neither stressed nor over-worked, these people seem to support Beer's theory.
Ragnar Beer of the University of Göttingen surveyed almost 32,000 men and women for his Theratalk Project, which has found that the less sex you have, the more work you seek. Indeed, the sexually deprived have to find outlets for their frustrations: they often take on more commitments and work.
i found this article on a blog with the title
i don't think that is exactly what the researchers are implying, but i do think it supports what most of us would follow as a logical conclusion to couples that are stressed/unhappy and allow that to negatively impact their relationship. the result being that if the amount of sex a couple has currently is decreased, it will only diminish in the future if they don't take action to improve their relationship.
i know a few couples (as i'm sure we all do) that have just given up on sex and live together as brother and sister. that's fine if it works for both of them, but usually a lot of resentment builds up and one feels the need to look elswhere.
any thoughts?
I hope to blog about this later, but it seems appropriate to mention it here too ... The New York Times just published an article in their Tuesday Science section about a study of people's reasons for having sex. They came up with 237 reasons and grouped them into four broad categories (physical reasons, goal attainment reasons, emotional reasons, and insecurity reasons). It seems to me that there's a lot of overlap here, but in any case, the reason I mention it at all is that "stress reduction" was a main subfactor of "physical reasons."
Here's a link to the study (PDF)
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Elizabeth
I finally got my first blog entry about this study up. I hope to have a "part 2" soon.
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Elizabeth
I just came across this via digg ---
Carnivore sex off the menu
No sex, please, you're a carnivore.
A new phenomenon in New Zealand is taking the idea of you are what you eat to the extreme.
Vegansexuals are people who do not eat any meat or animal products, and who choose not to be sexually intimate with non-vegan partners whose bodies, they say, are made up of dead animals.
You can read the rest of the story at the New Zealand Press .
"You and me baby,
Ain't nuthin' but mammals,
So let's do it like they do
On the Discovery Channel"
...or not.
:)
Kisses,
JanieBelle
good article elizabeth...i can think of lots of reasons why i have sex....want to connect, need to release, desire to please....237 and counting seems a bit much...
janie...i saw this also..not to offend but do vegans realize they are in themselves a piece of meat??? fair enough, i choose not to have sex with people who use drugs or want to procreate but if i ruled out every partner based on his eating habits i might be less than thrilled with what is left....
RC McCloud also writes at The Safe Word
My partner and I also go through somewhat routine "dry spells" when we're just too busy, or not home at the same time, or our minds are on other things. Sometimes we experience the same "awkardness" about getting back together that you described, RC. Once in a while, though, something different and interesting happens: the dry spell seems to break our sexual routine and we have "new sex" again. I wish I could figure out exactly what the conditions are that lead to the 'new sex' resolution of the dry spell instead of the 'awkard reconnecting' resolution of the dry spell!
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Elizabeth
