voyeurism

Re: Dinner Last Night

JanieBelle — Wed, 16 Jul 2008 13:35:18 -0700

Originally posted at U Dream Of Janie .

Thank you for your Email.

You did well, mostly. You followed my intructions almost to the letter, and I’m very proud of you. I’ll probably not punish you harshly for that one small variance.

It was fun exchanging text messages with you while you carried out my wishes with 1200 miles of aether between us. You were very panicked and didn’t have faith that you could do it at first, and comforting you and consoling you with my thumbs was an exercise in distraction and multi-tasking.

More Sex Ed(itorials): Voyeurism in NYC and Heterosexism in Congress

Elizabeth — Fri, 31 Aug 2007 08:10:19 -0700

Sex-related editorials in the NYT two days in a row!

First, from yesterday's New York Times editorial page: Talk about an uncomfortable intersection between public space and sexuality! Peter Vallone Jr., NYC city council rep from Queens, is introducing a law that would create a penalty of up to $500 in fines and up to 90 days in jail for "ogling a person’s 'sexual or intimate parts' for more than a brief period." Aside from the obvious evidentiary and definitional problems (how do you prove someone was ogling, and how long is a "brief period" for exapmle), the Times opines that New York is a city full of exhibitionists and voyeurs, and that:

"Nobody wants some sicko drilling a peephole in their locker room wall or private hotel room
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Mirror neurons, pornography and voyeurism

Zelda — Sat, 25 Aug 2007 21:01:40 -0700

Thinking about how mirror neurons work makes thinking about pornography and voyeurism all the more interesting, if not confusing. For any of you not familiar with our mirror neurons and how they function, have a look at a very good short little intro video from Nova Science Now
http://www.pbs.org/wgbh/nova/sciencenow/3204/01.html

Basically, when we watch someone else do something, our brain responds almost as if we are doing what we're watching -- we watch a dancer and our motor neurons fire, we watch someone smile or frown and our brain responds as if we're happy and smiling or frowning and fuming. Watching others is the way we learn how to function and behave in our culture, and, because we feel what others feel when we watch them, mirror neurons are also central to having empathy for others.

What makes a good play party?

RC — Tue, 10 Jul 2007 08:49:27 -0700

There's got to be a lot of varied opinion on this and I'd like to hear it. I was at a party a few weekends ago that I fully expected to enjoy - frankly it seemed right out of a fantasy - enormous house, five rooms in an upstairs area designated as play areas, a great room suitable for dancing, a private yard and large deck with a clothing optional pool, a lot of people I knew or recognized, two friends on hand willing to play, good food, etc. But I was extemely uncomfortable. Surveying my friends all I got was "the vibe" was wrong. Someone blamed the feng shui. I thought the whole place was much too brightly lit and also seemed bachelor-pad grungy. We didn't stay long. What makes a play party work for you?